22. Help your children to develop healthy self-esteem
Photo 3-239. Children who are raised with enough true unconditional love not only love themselves but also others and do their best in whatever they do. From an early age, she has been growing with sound healthy self-esteem and pride, and confidence.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
Who is a successful person?
Parents and siblings are harmonious and comfortable, looking up to heaven, and looking around the world, without shame, being gentle, good, polite, humble, living in humility, raising children so that he or she can be part of a productive member in society with sound healthy self-esteem and pride, and love while helping others, in addition, that, if he or she has abundant food, clothing, and comfortable shelter in his life or her life, and also he or she is healthy and productive in this world, he or she can say that he or she may be a successful person.I wonder how many such people are in this world.
All parents desperately want their precious children to have a successful life.
But being successful is not that easy.
Looking at the entire life of “successful people”, they have one or two things in common for their success.
They were healthy, had smart brains from their birth, studied hard, did their best in whatever they did, had good interpersonal relationships, and when they did something, they had a good plan before starting and did it well systematically.
He went ahead and ended it successfully, He set his priorities in his life well and did his job well according to that priority.
On top of that, not only have they have received unconditional and genuine love from their parents during their growth, they will continue to be loved by their parents and continue to learn to love their spouse, children, and others even after adulthood, and they will have a wealth of financial and sound healthy self-esteem and pride.
It is true.
It’s easy to understand how important it is for growing children to have a lot of healthy self-esteem and pride.
How much you have healthy self-esteem and pride determines whether you can succeed in this world or not.
The children raised up with genuine, unconditional love from their parents have healthy self-esteem and pride and strength, and they grow up happily.
Parents have so many things to do with their children from an early age to help them to be success with a lot of healthy self-esteem and pride.
The most important thing among them is to give enough true love without conditions.
Parents need to fill their children ‘s love tanks fully thoroughly, training them with eye contact love, proper physical contact love, focused attention love, and care, and train with love.
Only then, from birth to newborn, infancy, preschool age, school age, puberty, and adulthood, parents know how to love others with healthy self-esteem and pride, and is loved by others, and is not afraid when faced with new or difficult tasks.
People with healthy self-esteem and pride can lead a beautiful life, live politely and humbly, and lead a successful life.
For this reason, parents should teach their children how to live with an abundance of
healthy self-esteem and pride.
Photo 3-240. A child who has grown up receiving enough love for eye contact, physical contact, and true unconditional love. the child not only loves himself but also loves others and does his best in whatever he does. From an early age, he lives with healthy self-esteem and pride, and confidence.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
It is pride to think, evaluate, feel own values and abilities soundly and highly.
Because everyone has healthy self-esteem and pride, they say that there is an existence called “I” and “I am an unparalleled being in this world”.
Having this healthy self-esteem and pride is very important in the lives of children and adults.
Your success in your life can be determined by how much and how powerful you are with healthy self-esteem and pride.
Still, many people live without knowing what healthy self-esteem is.
Children with an abundance of healthy self-esteem know how to love others and receive more love from others.
Healthy self-esteem is a must-have in life.
Having an abundance of healthy self-esteem creates a sense of security in his life by doing his best in whatever he does.
They are not afraid or afraid when they run into new things.
It is common to have a firm mind to solve the new problem and naturally take an attitude to solve the new problem.
On the contrary, people who have unhealthy or damaged self-esteem, who have impaired self-esteem, or who do not have healthy self-esteem, neither know how to love others nor receive love from others.
They are helpless in their daily activities, fear of dealing with strangers, fear of starting new things spontaneously, they can start, but the process of continuing the work can seem awkward.
The efficiency and achievement of school study depend on how rich healthy self-esteem he has. It also greatly affects the degree of growth and maturity. It has a lot of influence on establishing close relationships with peers and friends and having interpersonal relationships with other people.
Photo 3-241. A child who has been brought up with plenty of eye contact love, physical contact love, and unconditional true love, grows up with good eye contact and healthy self-esteem and confidence from an early age.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
Not only that, but healthy self-esteem has a great influence on setting the direction of a healthy life.
It is common for children to develop these ups and downs of self-esteem normally.
The pride of children who grew up receiving enough true unconditional love from their parents is strong.
So they see, touch, feel, think about things around them, and learn from them by feeling what they are.
School-age children and adolescent children with healthy sound self-esteem are not afraid to deal with strangers, are not very suspicious of them, accept them easily, and treat them comfortably. If you have questions about what you feel and think, you tend to ask questions without hesitation and try to find out more.
They are very curious.
It is a personality that is commonly seen in school-age children, adolescent children, and adults with healthy self-esteem.
As they grow up and develop and reach school age, they sometimes start to doubt the current status of one’s self-esteem at home at school and compare one’s own values and abilities with those of other peers.
Sometimes they seriously assess how valuable they are, and whether their abilities and body images are better than their peers’ values, abilities, and body images, or if they are lower than theirs. Depending on the results of the evaluation, some of them may have damaged their healthy self-esteem.
Some adolescent children see their body image negatively and their self-esteem can be damaged.
Sometimes, seeing one’s body image is a significant negative aspect that can damage for self-image.
Some adolescent children, who grow up and develop and are sensitive to emotions, react very sensitively to each and every aspect of their body.
Any part of the body that is a little bigger or even a little smaller than that of its peers hurts the trouble and healthy self-esteem. A little fat or a little slimy body can cause a lot of damage in healthy self-esteem.
Adolescent children naturally have great power to seek independence from their parents and authorities. Such a pursuit of independence arises naturally. Because the effort to seek independence is so powerful, adolescents go anywhere alone. They also try to do something on their own without parental help.
How well adolescent children are received by their peers and friends, and how well they are accommodated, also determines the soundness of their healthy self-esteem and pride. In addition, the ability to seek independence is greatly affected by how healthy self-esteem is.
In order to help their adolescent children grow up with an abundance of healthy self-esteem, parents must also give their adolescent a lot of unconditional true love. This is because true unconditional love from parents becomes the driving force in the life of adolescent children.
Newborns, infants, preschool-age children, school-age children, and adolescent children must grow up with true, unconditional love from their parents so that their self-esteem and pride is healthy and strong.
Children with strong self-esteem do their best without being afraid of whatever they do, who they meet, whatever they start with.
Photo 3-242. A child who has received enough eye contact lov and physical contact love and has enough true unconditional love has good eye contact and lives with healthy self-esteem and confidence from infancy. And also make good friends.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
If children and adolescent children are raised by their parents who give possessive love, role reversal love, seductive love, vicarious love, healthy self-esteem for them do not develop, If adolescent children who are conditionally loved and raised or who are raised without genuine love can not have healthy self-esteem or their self-esteem is poor and unhealthy. They are timid and fragile, like chicks that just was hatched.
Children and adolescents who grow up with the warm and loving eye contact love of their parents, warmly hug, lift, freeze, kiss, and so on children and adolescents who have been raised with full care and trained with love have good self-esteem pride even as adults.
From parents, children received possessive love, role reversal love, seductive love, vicarious love, healthy self-esteem does not develop in adolescent children who are conditionally loved and raised or who are raised without genuine love. and their self-esteem is poor and unhealthy. They are timid and fragile, like chicks.
The pride of children and adolescents who have received enough focused attention love and care while growing up, from birth to growth, is higher, more self-esteem. And it is more comfortable to communicate through conversation.
Parents should usually fill their children’s love tanks with unconditional true love. Only then will their self-esteem become healthier and stronger.
As the love received from the parents in the love tank diminishes, their healthy self-esteem and pride diminish and damages.
In this extremely turbulent world, no matter how busy they live, parents give their children plenty of true, unconditional love, and constantly fill their love tanks with eye contact love, physical contact love, and focused attention love, and care. “you have to say I love you. If you make the words louder often so that, they can hear them clearly, their self-esteem becomes healthier and stronger.
Dear parents!
Are you raising your children that way?
Other than that, there are many more things parents need to do to help them develop strong and healthy self-esteem.
For example, even if younger children mislead teamwork in their lives, lose games, learn English at school, they are more faulty than other children, even if they don’t possess special skills, even if they don’t have one arm, you have to truly love without conditions.
For those who receive unconditional love, their healthy self-esteem and pride become higher and richer, and that pride becomes wholesome.
Whether you have one child, two children, or many children, whether they are girls or boys, you must truly love them without condition.
No matter what he does not achieve the best, he should be loved unconditionally and he will do his best to compliment without hesitation, saying, “Well done.”
They need to be praised so that their self-esteem becomes stronger and healthier.
If you praise them only when they performed superlatively well will, in most cases they disappoint themselves and their image or self-esteem will be damaged because they cannot do all the time best. Our parents sometimes make mistakes in this regard.
Parents should not spare it to give proper praise even if they did not do well at the highest level.
Their parental love can be well conveyed to them by loving them verbally, through eye contact, physical contact. Such love should be given a lot and a lot every day.
It is really not easy to love and nurture children in children adolescents (0-18 years old). But what could be more unfortunate than children not having healthy self-respect than having children with good healthy self-respect?
You have to pay the price.
What will the joy of having a productive, happy, and wholesome child with lots of pride compare to in this world?
Even if school-age children are not very good at drawing, they should refrain from speaking negatively about the child’s drawing or the child’s drawing.
Photo 3-243. A child who has received enough love for eye contact, love for physical contact, and true unconditional love has a good eye contact love and lives with healthy esteem and confidence from an early age. Make friends well.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
Photo 3-244. A child who has received enough eye contact love, physical contact love, and true unconditional love has good eye contact and lives with healthy self-esteem and pride, and confidence from an early age. He is well to listen and get the train well.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
Photo 3-245. A child who is raised with enough eye contact love, physical contact love, and true unconditional love has a good eye contact love and lives with healthy sound pride and confidence from an early age.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
A positive appreciation and no hesitation for other talents he has will strengthen the child’s healthy self-esteem and pride and be healthy.
When you do something in your daily life, a child who does his best and propaganda to the end must be praised and encouraged by saying, “I am proud of you,” so that he or she will have healthy self-esteem and pride.
Do not hesitate to give him water, do trivial errands, or do school homework, and he should praise him as “well done.”
Clap your hands, hug them, kiss them with good eye contact, and give them proper love through physical contact love in order to create healthy self-esteem and pride for your children.
If they humiliate them in such a way that they can’t do anything like that or can’t do anything like that at your age, their healthy self-esteem and pride is damaged and their hearts hurt.
Some of these trivial words can negatively affect your child’s life.
Parents must be extremely careful about word by word that parents have unknowingly found in parenting.
That said, you shouldn’t be complimenting too much or inappropriately.
Appropriate praise should be given according to time and place. It is appropriate to praise to say “Good job” for school-age children who eat rice and put his rice bowl in the kitchen or clean the room. It would be appropriate to praise it as “thank you.”
Only by listening to the right compliments they accept it and strengthen their self-esteem.
When he has done his best to work but haven’t finished it all or he has done something wrong, you can criticize him intermittently, but you have fully supported him.
However, accusing him of doing something wrong or repressing his child, can damage his self-esteem.
In order not to make another mistake in the future, you must point out what is wrong.
Parents also need to set an example for their children so that they can correct what is wrong so that their wholesome self-esteem becomes stronger and healthier.
No matter how young a child maybe, they know whether their parents are truly helping them, sincerely commending them, or making fun of them.
He knows whether the parent forgives his wrongdoing or simply ignores it.
Children with an abundance of healthy self-esteem make good eye contact and grow up cheerfully with a smile when talking with others.
Children who lack self-esteem do not laugh during conversations with others, do not look at the other person with gentle and good eye contact, and may have good eye contact.
Sometimes during a conversation, he turns his gaze down, to the side, or away from him, making the person he is talking to unpleasant.
What’s even more frightening is that the person you’re talking to is disliked during a conversation, so the person you’re talking to may mistakenly think that he is reluctant to continue the conversation because he think he hates him.