23.Communication Between of wife and husband and A letter to My Dear Husband

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23.Communication Between of wife and husband and A letter to My Dear Husband

As a means of communication, there are two types as Language and Actions.

You can talk only by means of words(language).

You can communicate only as a means of action.

Sometimes there are two ways to communicate such as say and do.

Having a quiet time without saying anything is one of the means of conversation.

Listening intently during conversation is a kind of conversational tool.

The wife cooks the foods which her husband likes, and giving each other to eat, is a kind of communication.

A wife or a husband buying foods and eating together is a kind of communication.

Sending one rose or 12 roses, sending a card or a gift after remembering a birthday, and sending a card or a gift on a wedding anniversary are also means of conversation.

When people meet each other, they laugh, shake hands, and hug. This is also a means of communication.

Laughing out loudly, loving each other through eye contact love, and loving each other through physical contact with a lightly raised hand on the shoulder are also means of communication.

Loving couples sitting close to each other, hugging and kissing, touching and loving with their hands are also a form of gesture communication.

Some women hold their hands tightly when shaking hands, while others shake hands with their wide-open palms without holding their hands.

Some men shake hands by holding their hands tight enough to almost break. Some women hug as soon as the handshake is over, while others do not.

Such handshakes and hugs are a kind of physical communication.

Once received, the good eye contact love of a woman can be unforgettable for the whole life.

Such eye contact love is also one of the means of communication.

All these means of communication by action can have a far more powerful effect on marital relationships and affect the lives of our daily lives than thousands of beautiful words.

When raising children, parents should not forget to often say ‘I LOVE YOU’ in word communication.

In addition, you should love them with appropriate physical contact, such as a hug, and lightly place your hand on their shoulder.

Again, such love is often needed between couples.

Some couple can naturally love their wife, husbands, and children this way.

Some couples do not know how to make good eye contact love or physical contact love to their wives, husbands, children, and others.

Such couples should learn how to love each other.

Couples must learn how to love each other, parents how to love children, and how to love others.

We are all born with the nature to love others.

You need to learn how to consciously make good eye contact love with others.

You should learn how to love your spouse, partner, offspring, or another person with proper physical contact love.

You should learn how to love, and you should wait for a lot of natural love and a happy and smooth spouse in your married life.

The athletes who won the gold medal in the Olympic Games have practiced and trained in bloody tears.

Couples must learn how to truly love each other unconditionally.

Let me give  “a love phrase like this in The Song of Solomon”.

“You want me to kiss because your love is better than wine.”

“My dear, you are pretty and pretty. Your eyes are like doves.”

“I am Sharon’s daffodil and lily of the valley.”

“My beloved belongs to me, and I belong to him… … .”

“My love, you are pretty and pretty… … .”

“Drops of honey drip from your lips and honey and milk are under my

tongue … .”

“My dear, how beautiful you are, how bright you are, makes me happy.”

“Your mouth will be like fine wine… … .”

It is part of a love dialogue in the Song of Songs.

Marriage life will be smooth if the couples communicate with each other while expressing these beautiful love phrases in words and body language frequently.

Unrequited love, heartbreaking love, breaking love, rebellion love, forced marriage, the praise of love, long breakup after marriage, couple breakup and abandonment, and descriptions of weddings are also written on Si-kyung.

Emotions and sorrows always exist between humans. These emotions and sorrows must be resolved through love dialogue.

We must understand, forgive, and accept joy and sadness, good and bad things through intermarriage dialogue.

For this reason, he says, “Sex is not the most important thing among the important things to maintain a smooth marital life and conversation.”

There are 8,540 minutes per week.

Among them, it can be assumed that a total of 210 minutes are spent on sex. However, there will be much more time for active conversation between the couple.

In fact, it is said that sex between the marital couple is one of the most enjoyable means of communication.

If a couple lives with the desire to break up, live a separate life, and divorce at any time, how will the marriage be successful?

Marriage promises are not promises of young children who play in childhood.

Don’t think of it as a promise made by irresponsible people these days.

If married couples are unable to solve their problems through conversation, they should seek professional counseling.

Among the means of communication is the means of action.

It has already been explained that lovemaking between couples is also a form of behavioral communication.

 Some say that the husband tells his wife, “Let’s go into the bedroom to talk” instead of telling his wife to go into the bedroom and “let’s make love.”

15 tips To have the best relationship between wife and husband

 

Photo: Yonsei University Medical school’s 25th graduation Anniversary reunion with my beloved wife and me

According to Gary Chapman, the five ways to express and experience the love that Chapman calls “love languages 5 are:

  1. words of affirmation
  2. quality time together
  3. acts of service (devotion)
  4. physical touch love
  5. Receiving gifts

When asked to share three qualities of primary relationship which they felt were most enhancing to continued growth in love, the population of this study responded that the most essential qualities were (in order):

  1. Communication
  2. Affection
  3. Compassion/Forgiveness
  4. Honesty
  5. Acceptance
  6. Dependability
  7. Sense of humor
  8. Romance
  9. Patient
  10. 15. Freedom

From Loving Each other by Leo Buscaglia

 “The Letter To you, my dear husband

To you, dear!

Let us both love each other and live happily.

Please tell me often that you love me, kiss me, hug me tight, and love me with your eyes.

If you don’t say “I love you”, you don’t hug me tight, you don’t hug, you don’t kiss me, how can I know you really love me.

Sometimes I wonder if you really love me.

“I love you.” Please tell me often.

Please kiss me, hug me tight, and love me a lot with your loving eyes.

Even if I look absurdly to you because I need you, sometimes if I don’t accept the true love you give, please don’t accept it as it is.

Please say “I love you” often a lot.

And hug me a lot.

Please hug me hard and kiss me a lot.

Even if what I’m doing seems awkward to you, even if you don’t like it, praise “well done”.

Don’t scold me for what I’ve done wrong, don’t despise it, fix what’s wrong, and encourage me to do well.

Give positive praise for what I did well.

If I fail, please convince me and encourage me to have sound confidence.

Don’t take it for granted that I do everything for you.

When I repeat to make certain things clear, be grateful, and reinforce positively.

Let me know when you are lonely or hurt.

I will comfort you.

When I think I have the ability to comfort you, I get stronger mentally and physically.

Any emotional problems we have, or anger, can be ruined in our marriages if we do not address them through dialogue.

Remember.

Even if I truly love you unconditionally, I can’t always know all the thoughts and feelings, stress, and anger that you hold deep in your heart.

If you have any good thoughts and feelings, please tell me.

If you take care of the good and bad things that I keep deep in my heart, the life of our couple will be energized.

I don’t know how wonderful it is to celebrate our personal day on a birthday or any other day.

When we give and receive gifts of love for no reason or when we hear you say you love me, our marriages are full of vitality.

If I see and feel something for me it is my experience and it is also important and true to me.

Judge me easily and don’t listen to them with preconceptions.

Listening to or seeing right is a very important couple conversation.

Of course, changes will come in the marriage between the two of us.

I keep thinking that we are helping each other.

Touch me with your both hands, hold me up, hug me.

It is also important to say that I love you, but if you love me through non-verbal communication and contact me with love, it will energize me.

Please respect me even when I am quiet sometimes without speaking.

When I need spiritual time to solve my problems, sometimes I need a quiet moment.

Help others understand that I am a worthy human being.

When people know that the two of us love each other this way, I can be special and I feel proud.

I am very happy when we share with others that our marriage is happy.

It is wrong to consciously think about these thoughts every day between loving couples and think that true marital love naturally works well without love.

Among them, in a healthy couple’s love relationship, a healthy conversation between couples is the cornerstone of the family.