44. Pardon (forgiveness)

· Forgiveness is a lubricant that facilitates interpersonal relationships in human society.

·There is no one perfect person in human society.

· Anyone can do wrong sometimes.

· We forgive them, they forgive us, and we live every day.

· In order to abandon the old, replace it with the new, and move forward, the process of forgiveness is essential for our humans.

· “Forgive me because I’ve done something wrong” is one of the most words to say in a relationship.

Forgiveness can be defined as follows.

① Accepting generously and not punishing

② Tolerate and not punish

③ Tolerate and not rebuke

④ It is a disengaging action with the power to relieve anger, heal wounds, and reconcile and energize fights (from Leo F. Buscaglia, Loving each other).

· True forgiveness is one of the noblest actions in human society.

· The mistakes that have already been made in the past cannot be completely corrected now.

· Nevertheless, do you keep holding on to the mistakes of the past until now?

· Empty the hatred, resentment, and worries that you have deep in your heart.

· Send it far and forget it.

· Neither you nor I can judge other people’s wrongdoings with certainty, nor can

you judge others’ wrongdoings.

· You shouldn’t even take revenge on what you did wrong.

· Leave the judgment of wrongs to God only.

· Please forgive me.

· Then you will be comfortable and free.

· There will be no anguish and pain.

· However, it is not easy to forgive.

· Not all of us are perfect.

· We can all do wrong.

· However, it is difficult to forgive someone who keeps making mistakes

without correcting them.

· The price of not forgiving is sometimes substantial.

· Sometimes it is far more than the price of forgiveness.

· Hating without forgiveness, resentment, and retaliation can lead to

self-destructive and dead ends.

· The process of forgiving and receiving forgiveness in human relationships

requires compassion, and it requires all strength.

· Only then will this feeling of hatred be alleviated and peace and stability in the

the mind will be created.

· Physical and psychological wounds sustained by abuse, abandonment, and

indifference is healed.

· The resentment is reconciled, the breakdown reunites, and the energy rises.

· Anger subsides or disappears.

· The pain disappears.

· Buddhism’s generality of kindness, compassion, love are based on forgiveness,

and Jesus’ unconditional love is based on the power of forgiveness.

· “Forgive us our sins as we have forgiven those who have sinned against us” is the

Bible in Matthew 6:9–13.

· “At that time Peter came and said, Lord, how many times will I forgive my brother

if he sins? Will I do it up to seven times? Jesus said to him, “I tell you, not only

seven times but also seventy times, seventy times.”.

· In 2 Chronicles 30:18, Job 7:21, Isaiah 55:7, and Joel 3:12 there are Bible words

about forgiveness.

· These words of the Bible are absolutely necessary lessons to have a

smooth interpersonal relationships in our daily life.

· There is a lesson I pointed out to my family at a family gathering in my home

on Thanksgiving Day.

· Think of it as a lesson that can make our relationship beautiful, and share it with us.

· These are the words we should use a lot in order to establish a smooth

interpersonal relationships during our lives.

· First, “Please forgive me because I was wrong.” (I was wrong, please forgive me)

· Second, “You did a great job.” (You did a good job)

· Thirdly, “Please tell us your opinion.” (What is your opinion)

· Fourth, “Shall I help you.” (Can I help)

· Fifth, “Thank you.”

· Sixth, “You”

· Seventh, “I”

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· Not all of us are perfect, and anyone can err.

· We live with our parents, siblings, relatives, friends, neighbors, and teachers,

without knowing everyone in the world.

· And I apologize and live with forgiveness.

· This is why we pray in front of God, “We are sinners.”

· Even between couples, without knowing, they make mistakes with each other, pray

for forgiveness, and receive forgiveness.

· Parents must forgive their children, and children must forgive their parents.

· Even so, the Soviet Union and the United States, which had been in the Cold War

for decades, were forgiven and forgave each other.

· Vietnam and the United States, Japan, and Korea also prayed for forgiveness,

forgiven, and forgiven each other.

· There are many countries in this world that pray for forgiveness, be forgiven, and

have friendly relations, and they forgive and live forgiving for the mistakes that have

occurred between our humans.

· Forgiving the murderer who murdered her husband, forgiving the murderer of

her beloved child, and a child who had been abandoned because there was no

a place to eat and wear grew up under a parent other than his own parents, became

an adult, and succeeded, seeking forgiveness from each other to seek forgiveness.

· What beautiful forgiveness.

· People and couples who live unforgivable and guilty can sometimes be

very heartbreaking.

· The feeling of guilt cannot always be eliminated just by being forgiven.

· However, when the sense of guilt that they had through forgiveness is emptied from

the heart, the bonding of love between the couple becomes even

stronger.

The next story is about Aesop about forgiveness and sympathy.

· One day, a lion was sleeping quietly in the mountain hill, snores, drooling enough

to leave the mountain stream in the sunlit forest.

· A tiny mouse accidentally stepped on the feet of the lion, the king of animals.

· The sleeping lion suddenly woke up and showed white teeth.

· The mouse was trembling in front of the lion.

· As the great lion trembled and tried to eat the crying mouse.

· “Lion king.

· Please save me.

· Please forgive me just once”.

· The mouse begged with tears.

· “Someday I will also help you, Lion, the king of animals.”

· The nice and magnificent lion listened to the little mouse and said, “How can a little mouse cub like you help me?”

The Lion laughed and laughed.

In fact, the lion was compassionate and loved the little beast very much.

“I will let the mouse go”.

· Shortly thereafter, the lion got caught in a net struck by someone living in the

town. The lion pulled and pulled the net to escape from the net and tried to do his best, but the rope of the net was so strong that there was no way to get out of the net.

· The lion roared so loudly in the mountain and. The lion’s scream could move so that the vegetation of the mountain could be shaken.

· The little mouse heard the lion crying sorrowfully and ran to the place immediately.

· “My benefactor, lion. You are still there. I will help you. I will peck the rope and help the lion get out”. The mouse is small but pecked the rope with the sharp teeth.

· To the lion who escaped the net, “Lion!

· He laughed at me for being small.

· No matter how small I was, I thought there was nothing I could do for the Lion.

See it. As a lion forgave me and pity me to save your precious life, I now repay

the grace.”

· This is a beautiful article by Aesop about the sympathy and forgiveness that

occurred between the animal king and a little mouse.

· You need to learn to forgive a couple for wrong words and actions.

· Especially when you are truly regretful of your wrong words and actions, you

should forgive them.

· Regret for one’s fault is evidence that your conscience is alive.

· We must be compassionate and forgive.

· We always do wrong and sin.

We must always learn to forgive others, just like living with forgiveness.

· Incorrect words and actions must be forgiven through dialogue and sympathy.

· If a couple of fights or is angry with wrong words and wrong actions, you should

not hurt or anger the other person.

· They express their anger in a passive-aggressive way, torment the other

person, separate the couple and even divorce.

· You have to learn to forgive through conversation.

· Those who do not forgive or live without forgiveness will live with the guilt.

· While married couples make true love without conditions through eye contact love

and physical contact love, the couple should live while forgiving and

receiving forgiveness. While raising children, it is wonderful for proper

forgiveness and teaches children how to forgive others’ mistakes.