Children need to be trained with love in order for them to grow up properly, have healthy self-esteem and pride, and become productive adults in society.
When many parents say that children should be trained and they must first train their children strictly and coldly, like Hahn Seokbong’s mother, and train them in a Spartan manner according to certain strict rules as in the military.
I think it can, but it’s a wrong idea.
When training your children, you need to train them with tender love, which should be reasonable, consecutive, logical, and with common sense.
Parents need to train their children with love, setting an example for their children based on the right actions or words, parenting guidelines, or model text.
In particular, parents should train their children with exemplary words and actions with “words and actions (언행일치)”.
School teachers, leaders of society and the state, or adults from all lives must train them with love, setting healthy, right, and good examples to children.
Still, it is difficult to find honesty and truth in the world we live in.
Some parents train their children in “Do as I say, don’t do as I do”.
In many families, almost all of them are the chiefs but there are no crew or workers. All around them are Chiefs or CEOs, there are no Indians and no employees. Everyone shouts loudly. There are many parents who speak without a subject or a verb.
They have freedom, but they don’t know what is freedom. They have rights but no obligations.
They don’t know what It means by “Freedom is not free” and They know everything is free.
Mangja kunja Sam-rak-ji-gyo (군자三樂之敎군자삼락지교) is a good example for parents who train their children.You have to train your children with love.
Yes, but they purely follow their parents’ training.
Sometimes they don’t need training. They do all the right things voluntarily.
This is what parents want. Children must be trained and raised with true unconditional love.
Picture 32. Children with good eyes contacts are popular and like others. They have more of healthy self-esteem.
It also teaches them that the habit of dealing with people with good eye contact and smiling faces can determine success.
When trained with love, they grow into happy children.
If you train hard, your children feel uncomfortable and hate to talk and become depressed.
They don’t talk to their parents about the complaints and worries that they have deep in their hearts.
When parents laugh, children laugh and respond. Children are afraid when their parents are angry.
The training is conducted by the first to make “a please or requesting”.
If they do not respond to your requests, then they are trained next by commanding or rewarding.
If they do not respond to parental training even if they are given orders or rewards, they are trained in the order of loving punishment or expert counseling.
You must first train with a petition or request.
When training children, parents must first quietly, lovingly, and first to ask, “Please do this to your children.”
Parents must remember to say “Thank you” if your child complies and follows your petition.
It is to train with love like this.
When a 2-year-old child does something for you, parents have to say “Thank you,”
How wonderful it is to see them say “No, thank you” if children don’t like to do it. This is one aspect of American-style child training.
If the child does not comply with the parent’s request, the parents should immediately check the following.
Find out if the parent’s petition was appropriate for the child’s age, level of development, and ability.
And then find out if the child has any mental or physical abnormalities, and also find out if the child is hungry,
child is growing up with enough true unconditional love from his parents,
Parents need to find out if the child’s love tank is full of parental eye contact love, physical contact love, and focused attention love, and care.
If everything described above is fully stocked for the child and that child does not comply with his or her parent’s petition and
If the parent does the petition one or two more times and the child complies with the parents petition, the child should be trained accordingly.
If the child does not comply with the petition once or twice again, the parent will go on to the next level of training.
If the child does not obey or rebel with parents’ petitions, parents may be ordered to do so, trained to do so, trained in behavior modification, or trained in punishment.
If the child does not listen to or rebel with a second or third petition, whether the child is ordered to do so and trained
Whether to modify the behavior,
Whether to get expert counseling,
It can be also trained as a punishment.
At this time, parents should learn and study through their reference books on normal growth and development in order to know how to plead for what is appropriate training for their age.
Otherwise, parents should consult with a pediatrician, child care specialist, or appropriate specialist.
Parents should also read “ Parent should become at least a half a doctor-부모도 반의사가 되어야 한다” or other child care books
Here too, parents should at least study their child’s training and parents should become at least a half a doctor.
Parents’ needs or orders must be appropriate.
Sometimes everything is normal for the child in training in emotionally, mentally, spiritually, but there may be financial problems on the parents’ side, and parents’ demands or orders may not be appropriate.
When parents raise and train their children, anger must be well controlled.
Parents can be very angry with their children when raising and training their children.
If parents are unstable economically, spiritually, physically, mentally, emotionally, and professionally, they can be angrier with their children.
When training children, parents must be extremely careful not to be angry with them.
If possible, parents should not train the child for any corporal punishment.
All studies show that corporal punishment has negative consequences for raising children.
It is not recommended to train the child with corporal punishment.
It is important to first find out if there is anything wrong in the parent child-rearing methods such as following, where no parents need to punish their children at least once or more often, and if they have to be punished at least once or often, whether the parent’s training method is wrong or they have not given their children unconditional true love.
If parents make a mistake, parents should apologize.
If the reckless make a mistake, parents must cancel the request and apologize.
Parents should apologize to their children if they have been punished for no wrongdoing. Normally, if necessary, parents should apologize for wrongdoing for their children.
If your child is well trained by parents, you should not spare praise.
Parents should be relentlessly complimenting their well-trained children.
For what the child has done wrong, parents must take the right opportunity to correct each and every wrong thing and train it with love.
When making love with eye contact, physical contact, and focused attention love, and care, says “I love you.”
Whenever possible, instead of saying “you”, parents should use the child’s name and also say “I love you,” appropriately at the moment, so that children can confirm that they are truly loved by their parents.