Photo 27. A newborn baby is loved by her mother’s eye contact, and she gives back her own eye contact love. Source- Mead Johnson Nutritionals, USA, and Pediatric Home Nursing Encyclopedia.
There are sayings in Korea, “One man’s eyes contact love fits one woman’s eyes contact love, and then they ran away to love each other forever”.
These words can be expressed in terms of eye contact love.
It can be expressed as “SOMEONE’S EYES CATCH SOMEONE’S EYES, eye fit contact love”, vision line contact love, eye smile love, or “eye contact love” in Korea.
In relationships between parents and children, between couples, between friends, or between loved ones, they always use their gaze to give and receive eye contact love. In other words, They use eye contact love each other without kowingly.
In particular, they use glances when communicating with each other through conversation.
They use eye contact a lot without knowing it in the everyday life.
In addition, in all other human relationships, eye contact is often used without knowing it.
In particular, parents can use eye contact when training their children with love, and during parenting, parents use eye contact to convey unconditional true love to their children.
Parents use eye contact to properly train their children and live their daily lives by using eye contact as a means of communicating emotions and/or sorrows to them.
During daily life like this, they often use eye contact between parents and children, or between parents and children without knowing.
Especially, when parents communicate with their children through conversation, they often use eye contact.
After the baby is born, the mother looks at the newborn baby from the head to the toe with a lovely glance.
From this point on, the newborn baby opens his eyes widely and begins to receive eye contact love from his mother and his father.
The baby receives the love from the mother’s eyes and puts it in the baby’s love tank which is the heart.
At that time, the mother’s first glance contact love is used as nourishment and vitality for the child’s life.
Nevertheless, there are many parents who are not sure how important their eye contact love is. In this way, the mother and the infant are exchanged without knowing the love of eye contact.
In other words, this is how eye contact love between parents and children begins and continues.
Take a close look at the babies feeding your breast milk.
At that time, you can learn a lot about how to give and receive love between the mother and her child, which cannot be found in the medical literature.
In order to receive the mother’s eye contact love, in addition to breastfeeding, the breastfeeding baby gets the mother’s eye contact love.
Photo 28. While the mother feeds her baby with her breast milk, the baby receives eye contact love from her mother and the mother receives eye contact love from her baby. As the mother and her daughter exchange love through eye contact, the love bonding between the mother and her daughter is firmly formed. Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
Photo 29. A mother loves her baby through eye contact while breastfeeding.
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Breastfeeding baby, of course, sucks on the baby’s mother’s breast milk and grows and develops with the nutrients from that breast milk. Other than that, the baby receives the mother’s eye contact loves through the mother’s gaze, receives the physical contact love from the mother while sucking the nipple while being held by the mother and in contact with the mother’s warm body. The breastfeeding to the baby is for nutrients and also love from breast milk feeding.
During this lactation, when the oxytocin hormone is secreted from the posterior lobe of the mother’s pituitary gland, the oxytocin hormone stimulates the mother’s breast milk ducts and sacs in the mother breast to make breast milk secreted from the inside of the breast toward the nipples and at the same times, the postpartum uterus can be contracted by the Pitocin(oxytocin) hormone action while the breastfeeding baby.
That is why the oxytocin hormone is called the love hormone. The oxytocin hormone contributes the secretion of breast milk so that the milk comes out well, and the uterus contracts after delivery. Without breastfeeding, the secretion of the oxytocin hormone is not smooth.
The baby fed the mother’s breast milk receives enough eye contact love and physical contact love from the mother and the baby puts that love in the baby’s love tank.
When the baby is feeding the mother’s breast milk, the baby is taking the total calories and nutrients from the mother’s breast milk and mom’s love.
There are more nutrients in that love than just the total calories and nutrients from the mother’s breast milk.
For this reason, breastfeeding mothers are happier and mother’s breastfeeding babies are healthier, better-grown, and happier.
I’ve read an article like this.
One of the professors of the medical school asked medical college students what are the benefits of breastfeeding. It is said that there were many answers like such as “Breast milk is a natural diet”. The temperature of the breast milk is suitable and constant for the baby to be able to suck. Breasts are the most beautiful bowls in the world, and it is so good that the bowls can not be crushed or broken no matter how much you rub it”.
All of the above answers are correct and plausible.
I wish there were more answers.
The best advantage of breastfeeding is that it can fully convey the mother’s eye contact love and the mother’s physical contact love to the baby during breastfeeding, and the baby who breastmilk-fed feels that she or he is receiving true unconditional love from the mother.
Nevertheless, the baby stores the love received from her mother.
During breastfeeding, the baby stores the love received from his mother.
The eye contact love and physical contact love stored in his love tank are returned to his mother while feeding.
Without eye contact love and physical contact love received from their mother, there is no love to return to his mother.
During breastfeeding, the love bonding between his mother and her baby is well-formed more firmly.
What other means other than this parenting method can be used to firmly form the bonding of love between one mother and one child.
It would have been better if the answer, “A love bonding between one mother and one child is formed during breastfeeding,” would be the best answer from medical students for the professor’s question.
In many cases today, there is a loose love bonding between parents and children. Sometimes the love bonding is not formed at all.
There are many reasons, but the most important reason is that the mother does not breastfeed her cxhild. I also thought that it came from raising children without breastfeeding for an appropriate period of time. The reason may be that the baby was not properly bonded with love between the mother and the child when the baby was born.
“How to really love your child” and “How to really love your teenager” by a pediatric psychiatrist, Dr. Ross Campbell is my favorite parenting guiding books.
In his books, he said that “all children are born with a love tank(emotional tank) that can store love and emotions received from their parents”.
The author would like to express it as a love tank instead of an emotion tank. The word emotion tank or love tank is a very important word for parents who love and raise their children to know.
I confess that I am writing this article using a lot of the words I have learned from Dr. Campbell’s two books above mentioned.
During many parents’ daily life, while raising their children, parents often use it unknowingly when filling up their children’s love tanks or communicating with their children. They also use physical contact love and focused attention love a lot without knowing it.
Many parents, including authors and people in my family, are unaware of how important good eye contact love is while raising children.
Also, we don’t even know how good or bad a child’s eye contact can affect a child’s level of happiness and stability and success.
And the way a child makes eye contact when dealing with other people and in what form it strongly affects his life in many ways.
In other words, when parents and children exchange affection, sympathy, and love with each other, they communicate with smiley eye contact and communicate with each other through good eye contact in order to communicate through conversation.
In this way, eye contact love strongly affects each person’s life positively or negatively.
There is a saying that ” the two of us love each other because the eyes met well.”
Unfortunately, some parents use physical language as a means of nonverbal communication when conveying negative emotions such as anger, hatred, or anger to their children.
When communicating, we use eye contact as the physical language.
Not only that, but teachers with better eye contact are more popular with students and teach more effectively with better eye contact.
Photo 31. Dad talks while loving the newborn baby with good eye contact.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
Photo 30. Grandmother and grandfather also take care of grandsons and granddaughters by giving their eye contact love, physical contact love, and focused attention love, and care to grandchildren.
In this complex and turbulent society, when experienced and wise grandparents give their grandchildren unconditional love and care, their grandchildren will grow happier and more stable.
The grandmother. “I love you very much”!. Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD.,
FAAP
Unknowingly, people use eye contact as a means to communicate negative emotions such as anger, hatred, and anger to others. As such, it is a big mistake to use eye contact as a negative means.
Parents should give their children a lot of good eye contact love as a means of delivering true unconditional love to their children.
It would be good to find out how good each other’s eye contact is in a marital relationship.
Children naturally follow the more loving of the two parents with better eye contact.
In addition, there is no doubt that the students follow the teachers who teach disciples with good eye contact among the various teachers, and that the students prefer such teachers.
Even at work, it’s easy to understand that you like your bosses or colleagues who have better eye contact.
It is very important to take the time deliberately to teach your children to grow up and develop and treat them with bright, intelligent, smiling, and loving eye contact when dealing with the other person during their daily life.
Parents are obligated to teach their children how to do the friend eye contact, at least once or twice.
In fact, you should continue to teach your children how to use eye contact love until they make sure they have good eye contact.
It teaches us that the habit of treating someone with good eye contact and smiling faces is the key to determining success.
Photo 32. Children with good eye contact are popular. Others like them. Have more of a wholesome healthy pride. It also teaches us that the habit of treating someone with good eye contact and smiling faces can determine success.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
Photo 33. Children with good eye contact are popular and others like them more. Have more healthy self-esteem.
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Some children have good eye contact from birth, but if there are children who do not have good eye contact, teach them how to do a lot of practice to stand in front of the mirror.
One of the things such as economically, socially, and politically successful people have in common is good eye contact.
Still, many parents do not teach their children how to have good eye contact and how to use it properly.
In the meantime, I have had several seminars with parents in Korea, my home country, about eye contact love, but Korean parents who attended the seminar did not seem to be interested in the subject of eye contact love.
I even heard that it was not polite to look up straight at others.
From birth to newborn, infancy, toddlers, preschool-age children, school-age, adolescents, and to adulthood, children who grow up with a lot of good eye contact love, and good glances from their parents maintain a productive and energetic life with a stable, peaceful, sound self-esteem.
Better eye contact, the more love they receive, the more popular and desirable children of their age, adults, or others.
After becoming an adult, even when living in social life, they have more pride in being amicable, positive, healthy, and healthy.
Let me give you a good example of eye contact.
I raised one daughter and two sons. The second son graduated with majoring in Chemistry at the University of Pennsylvania and took an interview for admission to Connecticut Medical School.
While taking the interview, he turned his gaze down the whole way and was notified of the disqualification. After that, he and I learned how to make good use of eye contact, He took the interview again, and then received a passing notice.
During 30 years of pediatric practice, some children were brought to my pediatric clinic from birth until they graduated from college.
I also taught them how to make good eye contact.
We can now see how important it is for our children to have good eye contact, physical contact love, and nurture them properly.
Good eye contact, how to love, how to do a lot, teach your children how to treat others with good eye contact, and teach your children how to receive good eye contact from others. The eye contact of successful people in this world gives comfort uniformly.
Those who gave good eye contact unforgettable and always remain in their minds and yearn.
If you love your children with a lot of good eye contact love, your children will be well communicated to them.
Photo 34. Eye contact love, physical contact love, focused attention love, and training with love give children plenty of true unconditional love and fill their love tank, and they will be happy and do their best no matter what they do and have a healthy self-esteem and sound pride.
Copyright ⓒ 2012 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
Because of this, the eye contact love obtained from parents is stored in their love tank and reflected back to parents as they were received and reflected by others.
As much as the parents did, and in the way they did, eye contact love returns to the parents.
As much as the eye contact love that the society gave to young children and the way they did, the eye contact love of the youths given by society returns to that society.
If you give your children unconditional love through eye contact love, physical contact love, focused attention love and care, and love training and fill their love tank, they will be happy and do their best no matter what they do, and they will have a healthy self-esteem.
Parents will provide their children with shelters, clothes, food, health care, and well-education, and fill their children’s love tanks with true, unconditional love without deficiencies in these four aspects, the reward will be unimaginable.