42. Stealing in children and adolescents(1)
The act of “taking someone else’s property as mine without the owner’s permission” is called stealing or stealing behavior.
They do not express “stealing” the behavior of young infants and toddlers who simply do what they own without permission.
Also, if possible, it is better not to use the word “stealing” even in the case of children and adolescents.
It’s a contradictory statement, but here, “steal.” or “stealing” is used for convenience.
Rarely, children and adolescents steal something. In particular, it is relatively common for infants to steal things from others.
When any children and adolescents have behavioral problems in stealing, parents do hesitate to bring them to pediatricians and instead of taking them to care of my parents themself rather than for consultation.
However, when the problem of stealing occurs in a child, his mother and father try to solve it at home on their own, rather than bringing them to the Pediatrician for consultation.
There is a reason.
Most of the behaviors that children take on other people’s possessions without permission are not malicious.
Proper handling of such stealing behavior usually does not have serious consequences.
Like the old saying, “A needle thief becomes a cow thief”, we must never condone the act of having someone’s petty, insignificant, and small things without the owner’s permission.
It is very important to teach your children that you must “live honestly”.
However, the meaning of “honesty” has a relative meaning, and many children and adolescents today are confused about honesty.
In any country, anywhere, at any age, regardless of age or gender, honesty is very important in life and has an important value in terms of moral ethics.
But for some people, for people in some countries, honesty doesn’t seem to be so important in their lives. In addition, the value of honesty may be slightly different depending on the society, the era, each family, and each individual.
The cause of theft
Steal for various reasons.
However, there are many times when the cause is not known for certain.
The reason or cause of stealing will be described in detail below.
1. Children and adolescents without the concept of ownership can steal from others (the concept of non-ownership).
Most of the toddlers and preschool-age children before the age of 6 years old are unaware of the true meaning of “stealing” and rarely have the notion of “property”.
It is bad to have someone else’s possessions without permission, and the notion of not doing so is certainly not for infants of that age.
In addition, it is common to be virtually unaware of the consequences that if someone else has something as their own without permission, as a result, the owner who owns it will no longer have it.
However, the above-described notion of ownership is evident in the majority of 6-years-olds and older school-age children.
Some children and adolescents who are not sure what the idea of ownership is, are confused about the idea of ownership, or have not learned what the idea of ownership is, may take possession of others without the owner’s permission, and may not know if the behavior is wrong.
The thought of wanting to have something, the desire to collect something, occurs mostly in children and adolescents, and can also occur normally in adults.
In a way, such thoughts or desires can be called human instincts.
Some toddlers and preschool-age children before the age of 6 years old take it to their home without permission from the owner, even though it is useless to them.
In this way, he or she can have someone else’s things from the urge to just keep things that are useless to him or her without the owner’s permission, and he or she can have them without permission with the urge to have them even they are not essential to him or her.
The urge to steal is suppressed because we have to value other people’s possessions or property, know what the concept of ownership is, and think that it is wrong to have other people’s possessions without permission.
Children and adolescents who are not properly trained in this notion of ownership can use others’ things without permission and sometimes take them as their own.
The measure of valuing other people’s possessions and how important ownership is can vary depending on the rate of growth and development of children and adolescents and the degree of education.
It is common in toddlers and preschool-age children and young children to have one or two pieces of strings, paper clips, and stones that they will not use without their permission.
In that case, it usually doesn’t matter.
However, the problem is very different when a child has someone else’s pencil, a knife, or paper without the owner’s permission.
Family members living in confined spaces don’t have much privacy.
It is common for parents, brothers, and sisters to share with each other whether it is mine or for another member to use the bedroom, the bed, the clothing, and toys.
The idea of ownership may not be evident in children living in such a home.
Children living in such a home may take possessions of other members of the household without permission and use them as mine, not knowing that such behavior is wrong.
Even children who grow up in families who can afford them economically and can store and use their own separately may not have a certain idea of ownership and may use and take possession of other members of the household without permission.
Even children and adolescents who have been educated and raised saying that “sharing is better” can be confused with the idea of ownership.
The idea of ownership may not be evident to the children of parents who have been trained to take out the pocket money from the mother’s bag or dad’s pocket when spending the allowance.
Some parents scour their children’s pockets without their permission while their children are away or sleeping, and confiscate everything in their pockets without the permission of their children if they find in their pockets what they taught their children not to have.
Children who are raised by these family parents may feel that they have no place to keep their belongings safe.
It is also possible to think that it is possible to take possessions of not only the family members but also other people’s possessions without permission, just as the parents did to them.
Mom who searches dad’s pocket without dad’s permission, and dad who opens mom’s letter without mom’s permission, searches the wallets and pockets of mom, dad, or family members at will, and if they want, and take it out without permission. You may be mistaken for doing it.
In the lives of their parents, brothers, and sisters, children who are raised without positive training on the idea of ownership are able to take other things without permission and use others as they please, or steal things as needed.
It is raised in a small family with no privacy, and if there is no idea of ownership, it teaches about the idea of ownership and teaches them not to look into, use, or take on others without permission.
Also, their parents should show their children the exemplary behavior of neither using nor taking possession of their children without their permission.
You should give your children a drawer or a box where they can put their belongings and use them.
At the same time, it teaches that the property of others should be valued and not used or possessed. If children receive and send letters needlessly, admonish them not to send letters anymore, and let them tear up letters on their own if necessary.
However, you shouldn’t even read your children’s letters.
Teach children that they can own their own clothes, books, etc., and that they should be grateful that they can own them, and that they should cherish, manage, and use them.
It can be stolen to do a buy-in. (Theft of purchase).
Being bullied or teased by their friends or peers can create a feeling of alienation, and they can suffer quite a bit from that feeling of alienation.
Some of the suffering, especially school-age children, can give them money, candy, ice cream, and etc. with friends and peers so that they are no longer teased or bullied.
They can steal something that can be used as a means to do a buy-in.
Rarely, there are school-age children who put a lot of money in their wallets to crush other children and give them money.
To do so, they can steal someone else’s money.
The majority of children who are bullied or teased and feel alienated are physically too larger or smaller than their peers, whether there is something wrong or deformed in their limbs or body, whether they are left-handed, stutter, or wear clothes that are too loose.
It is common to be in and out of the school health room too often, physically or mentally, or elsewhere, whether it’s not, or too well dressed.
In general, children with physical, mental, or other defects may be bullied by their peers and feel alienated.
Therefore they can buy something they like and sometimes they give money to them. It’s common to feel ashamed for doing things on your back.
In addition, it is common to hate excuses for the motive or method of doing the procurement and to tell parents or other people that fact.
For this reason, he or she can steal something to do a buy-in.
The act of stealing to do the buy-in is not well-discovered, it is difficult to correct the act of stealing, and some of the school-age children who feel alienated may not even know what their flaws are.
The problem can be easily resolved by quickly finding the reasons and causes of being bullied and alienated and correcting them.
School-age or adolescent children who are overprotected by their parents are more prone to be bullying or bullied.
When they are alienated by a congenital deformity or any abnormality in their children’s bodies, parents should seek advice from a regular pediatrician when parents cannot correct the abnormality in their children’s bodies.
If you can’t fix any flaws in your child’s body, he can make use of his special skills and materials such as music, painting, swimming, and games, and encourage him to grow up with healthy sound self-esteem and confidence.
For this reason, it is imperative to keep in close contact with parents of other school-age adolescent children and to treat their children’s friends with kindness.
The children can steal from the desire to own (Stealing the desire to own)
For this reason, any adults or men and women of all ages, steal from others.
Toddlers with many toys can get an urge to have them after seeing unusual toys that other toddlers have and steal them.
Most school-age children over 6 years old of age and adolescents who have a strong sense of ownership, knowing that stealing is bad and that stealing can be punished will not steal even if they have the urge to have something else.
Also, most of the school-age or adolescent children of this age usually do not know that when they have the urge to have other things without permission, they restrict possessive desires according to their maturity and know that they cannot have everything.
If parents explain that their children have to tell them why they can not have it even they want to have it or that you can’t buy it because you don’t have money or for other reasons, they understand why they cannot have it depending on their maturity.
When they want to have something they can’t have, it’s a good idea to clearly explain why they can’t have it and parents can give them something else instead.
If it is judged that what they want to have is a safety problem, explaining that the reason they cannot have it is a safety problem, and they can see the reason why they cannot have it.
Give them pocket allowances based on their age and maturity, and give them weekly pocket allowances as much as their peers and friends receive from their parents, and they won’t steal.
4. Children can steal for revenge (Stealing revenge).
When the relationship between parents and children is not good, some children can steal something to retaliate against their parents.
A child thinks his parents don’t really love him or that he thinks his parents only love another brother and then he may steal something to revenge on his parents.
If parents are too conscious and authoritative, and they train their children in the hope that they will behave maturely like mature adults, children can rebel against them and steal something.
When parents train their children to lead their children on the right track, parents over-supervise them and dominate them, make possessive love as if parents owned them, meddle in every one of their actions, or give too little allowance, their children may have stealing habit.
Parents interfere with children who over-manage and spending the allowances already given or parents who do not understand that each child has a need for independence depending on their growing maturity, and think that they always keep themselves tightly tied to their parents, repay their parents. Children can steal someone else’s to do it.
Young children are independent human beings, and some parents do not understand that children have the right to grow up and become independent from their parents and that they must grow up and develop joyfully, and if parents don’t adequately help children meet their need for independence according to their age and maturity, they can be stolen in revenge.
Children who grow up with possessive love from their parents, children who grow up with conditional love, and children who grow up with false love may steal pencils and keychains that are neither necessary nor important to them, and sometimes they can steal something of value.
Parents should also help their children grow up with sound confidence knowing that they are members of the family, they also are independent individuals, and have the right to receive unconditional love.
If parents raise their children too authoritatively, or raise them and love them conditionally, or raise not them fairly, and if parents dominate and raise their children like a boss, parents should apologize to their children, increasing privileges and increasing allowances according to maturity.
It teaches by emphasizing that it is bad to have even the most trivial things without the permission of the owner and that there is no right to have other things without permission. It is taught that it is a sin to have something bad and others’ things without permission.
If he or she has other people’s possessions without permission, one parent or two parents sternly and kindly discipline in a quiet place at an appropriate time that the act of having what the other person has without permission is not right, bad, and unacceptable behavior.
When adults are at work, they can steal something to make up for the level of salary which other employees receive, when they think that their employer does not treat them fairly than other employees, or when they think that their pay is less than that of other employees, they may steal something to retaliate for their employer.
5. Adolescent children steal can be divided into four categories
The stealing behavior of adolescent children can be divided into four categories.
① They can accidentally steal someone else’s. They didn’t plan to have someone else’s possessions, but they could have them without the owner’s permission because they were thinking about what they owned by chance. In other words, after seeing someone else’s, it is a case of stealing.
② They can steal something to show that they are a mature man.
③ It can be stolen for comfort. When a loved one dies or separates from
him, something can be stolen as a means of supplementing the loved one.
④ They can steal something intentionally.
They can steal by themself after they have a plan to steal in advance, or They can steal after making a plan to steal with some peers.
In this case, it is common to plan and steal carefully so as not to be detected.
In general, children of poor families, children raised for possessive love, children who express their anger through passive-aggressive behavior, and children who grow up overprotected, steal in this way.
Children who are raised with seductive love from mothers or nurtured by authoritative fathers may be more likely to steal.
The majority of adolescent children who engage in stealing are mentally quite anxious, impulsive, immature, and complaining.
There are also school-age and adolescent children who steal something under the control of the elderly.
Stealing something from adolescents who have joined the gang for fear of retribution if they don’t steal can have disastrous consequences.
“It is your fault to be caught stealing”. For that reason, it’s common to be persuaded to steal so that you won’t be caught” and praised by gang members who successfully steal something.
In this case, most of the stolen items could be of value.
Most of the children who join the gang do not usually grow up in stable homes.
Most of these people often go to prison and continue to steal on their own even after they reach adulthood, or as a member of a gang and continue to steal.
Adolescent children who use drugs can steal something to buy drugs.
Since marijuana and amphetamines are relatively cheap, it is common to get money to buy drugs by stealing small items from a whole store.
However, in order to purchase expensive drugs such as heroin, it is common to steal valuables by robbing or transpassing.
6. It can be stolen by pilfering (Stole the stealing).
School-age or adolescent children who express their anger as passive-aggressive behaviors can steal as a means of anger.
Because of its tyrannize, adolescent children can steal anything.
Two or more teenage girls can steal together.
Sometimes you can do something and steal it only once or twice.
Some adolescent girls steal during menstruation just before menstruation started.
This kind of stealing is more common among adolescent girls.
It is caused by symptoms of menstrual abnormalities and must be handled well.
The act of successfully stealing something from a store, once or twice, is not called a steal.
42. Stealing in children and adolescents(2)
How to tackle children’s stealing behavior
Teach honesty.
It must be said strictly that if a young child has something of others without the permission of the owner, it is wrong to have something of others without permission, and that such an act is a bad act and an act that can no longer be tolerated.
When they grow up, it is a sin to steal someone else’s, and according to their degree, they sternly and firmly discipline them and tell them you may go to prison.
It is taught when there is an incident of stealing on TV shows, that stealing is bad at home, or in society.
Emphasizing the importance of doing all business relationships in everyday life on an equitable and honest basis, it is important to teach what honesty is and to review frequently whether parents themselves acted honestly in front of young children.
Most of the infants and toddlers who have had other people’s things without permission are also grown up and can become honest adults. They also tell us that they can be sincere and good social leaders. However, some of the children and adolescents who have the things of others without permission, when they are young emphasize that they can continue to have the things of others without permission even when they grow up and become adults.
Parents say that honesty is a treasure and that living honestly is very important.
The relationship between parents and their parents in their daily lives is completely honest and fair.
Reconsider whether parents have written false statements to their children’s teachers, or whether even minor infidelities have been done in front of younger children.
Parents reconsider whether they have cheated on having something else or lied as a joke in front of their children.
It teaches the meaning of ownership and teaches in everyday life to make sure that this is mine and that is yours.
No matter how small a child belongs, a parent should not have or use it without his permission.
They give them enough pocket money and teach them to spend them properly.
If you unexpectedly have to spend more pocket money, teach your children that you may spend more pocket money which parents may give more.
Also, the promise must be fulfilled.
The pocket money you have already given should not be taken away by punishment. Parents do not let this happen again to children who have had possessions of others without permission in the past.
Make sure to keep your money so that they can’t easily see it in the house.
To test your child’s honesty, it is not a wise way to raise a child by putting money in a place where the child can easily see it, and then stealing it or testing it.
Review what was left around home, school, and living so that children can have it without permission.
Seeing a child who owns someone else’s without permission, no matter how trivial, can lead to embarrassment and a quick reminder that you may go to jail.
It’s important to prevent stealing, but it’s also important to teach honesty and correct wrongdoings on a regular basis.
If children stole something, parents should not overreact, punished, condone, and punished appropriately.
Teach about ownership. toddlers aged 2 to 3 are self-centered to the last and may misunderstand everything around them as if they were mine. When someone approaches them, they shout that it’s mine and they may mistake them for everything they want to have. This is also normal.
Some of the 2 to 3-year-olds can hold candy in their hands without the owner’s permission and stand in front of someone else’s store cashier, and they can put toys in their pockets that haven’t been bought without paying any money.
They point to everyone and say they will just have it. To a child like this, “It’s not yours. You can see it, but neither touch nor have it.”
Compliment them if they comply with their parents’ words and do not touch them or have them.
When you have a lot of things you want to have, you can choose only one or two of them depending on your maturity level, and you can buy them with your own pocket money, and you must teach them to learn not to have them by controlling their desires.
In other words, if you have someone else’s other than yours without permission, take the child to a quiet place and, when you are alone, tell the child that it is not yours and should not be taken without permission.
And, depending on the situation, you can order it to be delivered to the owner. For school-aged children over the age of 6 years old, it must be clearly stated that possessions without the owner’s permission are stolen, and possession of others without permission is an act of stealing. (Even here, you shouldn’t actually use the word steal.)
If something you have without permission is found in your child’s pocket or bag, it is best not to ask as much as possible about the process of acquiring it, such as where and how it was acquired.
Just cut it off as wrong to have it without the owner’s permission, speak seriously and quietly, and punish him for his actions. ‘
Of course, he returns the item to the owner.
Don’t blame the child, don’t be hostile, don’t despise him. Don’t even give the child the impression of being a bad child.
But calmly, you simply say that the actions he took are bad.
Even what you want to buy is taught based on honesty.
It teaches that almost everything in the house is bought for money.
Teach what it means to receive a gift.
When you buy something in a store, it really shows that you pay for it.
Depending on their maturity, children are given pocket money and taught to buy what they need with pocket money.
Teach about the value of things.
Teach them to save money to buy gifts.
Teach the meaning of possession..
Parents walk around the house, look at objects, and teach them about ownership.
Teach them that some of the objects in the house belong to their children and some are not theirs.
Teach that this is a mom and that is dad and this is yours and that you can label the children.
It teaches that you can use yours without the permission of others, but you don’t see, have, or use others without the permission of mom or dad.
Teach them to use and lend things, for example.
Teach your child how to apologize for the stealing.
· Toddlers and preschool children, school-age children, adolescents, and some
of the adults do not know how to ask for forgiveness for wrongdoing.
Teach them how to ask for forgiveness after doing something wrong.
When parents have the opportunity to tell others to forgive for something they have done wrong, they can teach the child how to ask for forgiveness as model behavior.
If you take something from someone else without permission, “you have to give it back to the owner”, teach them to ask for forgiveness, and if necessary, use your allowance to pay for the stolen property.
When you have the urge to have something, teach them how to control it.
If she or he points to something at the store’s cash register and asks for something to buy, teach the child to see it, but not to touch it, because it is not yours.
Compliment it if the children calmly endure it without touching it.
Sometimes you can allow one or two of them to be bought for your pocket money.
When he has something without his permission, he can ask the child directly what he would like him to do, and sometimes you can suggest what he would do if he did this.
If you have something of someone else’s without permission, you can go to the place you have to meet the owner of the item.
Ask the owner of the item to forgive even if he doesn’t say anything.
If your children have something that is not theirs without permission, ask what you think if someone else has yours without permission, and educate them not to have other people’s things without permission.
Teach them to apologize for wrongdoing and return it to the owner if they own someone else’s without permission.
It should be noted that young children may not know the meaning of “apologizing,” “wrong,” “sorry,” and so on, and apologizing with such words cannot always be desired.
However, you teach that they must say sorry if they do something wrong.
Teach them that when they want to have something other than their own, they can ask if they can have it and then ask if they can have it.
Ask mom, dad, or other people if they can have it, and teach them that if they can have it. He admonished that you should never take other people’s without permission. Compliment and reward appropriate for acting honestly.
It’s important to correct behaviors that are dishonest, but training them to be honest in the future is also very important.
The most important thing is to teach them to be honest.
If you look at the candy with your own eyes and don’t touch it at someone else’s store without permission, you praise the child for being very good.
If there is an example of a child doing honest behavior on TV, in the newspaper, or at home, think about honest behavior with your child and teach them about honesty.
If you have children who have household members’ money or items without permission, keep your money and so on so that they will not be tempted.
If they act honestly for a long time and show honesty all the time, praise them for doing so.
Always supervise what your children steal and what they do wrong.
Supervise your children while they are growing up so they keep training to avoid stealing anything.
They can also steal something by not being able to overcome the pressure of their peers. To prevent this, they should always be observed and supervised.
It is also a good way to raise children by working with the parents of other children and taking turns supervising them.
When parents leave home and go to work before their children ride the school bus to school, have a neighbor or someone observes them. One parent can take turns supervising children and children in the neighborhood in the morning and the other in the evening.
When stealing something, you can consult with the parents of the stolen children to educate them not to do it.
Let them play together and play with them if they no longer steal, and prevent them from playing together for at least a few weeks if they steal something else together.
And when playing together, parents take turns observing and supervising them.
In many ways, it is not good for school-age children to come home after school and let their school-age children play at home alone.
Allowing young school-age children to play alone is child abuse, depending on age and country.
Sometimes, before the parents return home from work, the babysitter who cares for the school-age child who comes home from school first makes the phone call to the mother and makes it clear that the mother checks you over the phone because she loves you. After arriving home from school, prepare a schedule of things to do and a timetable for your school-age child.
In an emergency, write down phone numbers where you can reach parents, and teach them to call the babysitter taking care of your child in case of an emergency.
Set a time for homework, a snack, and a time to watch TV, and after mom and dad return home, do it as it is.
Parents can take turns supervising them by creating healthy after-school programs with friends living in the neighborhood.
Like the above, love your little ones so they don’t steal.
Teach about the negative consequences of stealing.
It is not a good idea to cure the stolen behavior by yelling and criticizing the child who owns anything other than the owner’s permission and prolonging educational admonition.
Nevertheless, it must be said in a simple, severe, and quiet manner that it is wrong and a serious matter to have someone else’s without permission.
When school-age children take possession of other people’s possessions without permission, they will be punished by doing more chores than usual, making money by delivering newspapers, etc., and rewarding the stolen items with the earned money. Then, if necessary, return the item and have to apologize to the owner for the wrongdoing. Give punishment to common sense.
If all preschool children ate cookies without permission, they are not given for 2 to 3 days, and for older preschool children 5-6 years old, do not give them for 1 week.
If your child brings a toy from a friend without permission, he can buy it with his own money or give it back to the owner.
If he has another child’s money at school, clean the bowl he ate at home and repay it with his pocket money.
Consider taking away the rights you have granted as needed for some time.
If you don’t know what to do, ask his regular pediatrician or get help from a school counselor.
How important it is to teach your children honesty while thinking that my children grow up as adults and are sitting in prison cells for stealing from others!
Parents who raise their children through regular pediatric health check-ups, as well as medical professionals in the pediatric clinic, believe that they have a responsibility to guide children and adolescents to grow up healthy and true and to train children to avoid stealing.
How to tackle children’s stealing behavior
Teach honesty.
It must be said strictly that if a young child has something of others without the permission of the owner, it is wrong to have something of others without permission, and that such an act is a bad act and an act that can no longer be tolerated.
When they grow up, it is a sin to steal someone else’s, and according to their degree, they sternly and firmly discipline them to go to prison.
It is taught that stealing is bad when there is an incident on TV shows, at home, or in society.
Emphasizing the importance of doing all business relationships in everyday life on an equitable and honest basis, it is important to teach what honesty is, and to review frequently whether parents themselves acted honestly in front of young children.
Most of the infants and toddlers who have had other people’s things without permission are also grown up and can become honest adults.
They also tell us that they can be sincere and good social leaders.
However, some of the children and adolescents who have the things of others without permission when they are young emphasize that they can continue to have the things of others without permission even when they grow up and become adults.
Honesty is a treasure and that living honestly is very important.
The relationship between parents and their parents in their daily lives is completely honest and fair.
Reconsider whether parents have written false statements to their children’s teachers, or whether even minor infidelities have been done in front of younger children.
Parents reconsider whether they have cheated on having something else or lied as a joke in front of their children.
It teaches the meaning of ownership and teaches in everyday life to make sure that this is mine and that is yours.
No matter how small a child belongs, a parent should not have or use it without his permission.
They give them enough pocket allowance and teach them to spend them properly.
If your children unexpectedly have to spend more pocket allowance, teach your children how to spend more pocket allowance.
Also, the promise must be fulfilled.
The pocket allowance you have already given should not be taken away by punishment.
Don’t let this happen again to children who have had possessions of others without permission in the past.
Make sure to keep your money so that they can’t easily see it in the house.
To test your child’s honesty, it is not a wise way to raise a child by putting money in a place where the child can easily see it, and then stealing it or testing it.
Review what was left around home, school, and living so that children can have it without permission.
Seeing a child who owns someone else’s without permission, no matter how trivial, can lead to embarrassment and a quick reminder that he could go to jail.
It’s important to prevent stealing, but it’s also important to teach honesty and correct wrongdoings on a regular basis.
The stolen children should not be overreacted, punished, condone, and punished appropriately.
Teach about ownership.
Infants aged 2 to 3 years old are self-centered to the last and may misunderstand everything around them as if they own.
When someone approaches them, they shout that it’s mine and they may mistake them for everything they want to have.
This is also normal.
Some of the 2 to 3 years old can hold candy in their hands without the owner’s permission and stand in front of someone else’s store cashier, and they can put toys in their pockets that haven’t been bought without paying any money.
They point to everyone and say they will just have it.
To a child like this, “It’s not yours.
You can see it, but neither touch nor have it.”
Compliment them if they conform to their parents’ words and do not touch or hold them.
When you have a lot of things you want to have, you can choose only one or two of them depending on your maturity level, and you can buy them with your own pocket allowance, and you must teach them to learn not to have them by controlling their desires.
In other words, if you have someone else’s other than yours without permission, take the child to a quiet place and, when you are alone, tell the child that it is not yours and should not be taken without permission.
And, depending on the situation, you can order it to be delivered to the owner.
For school-aged children over the age of 6 years old, it must be clearly stated that possessions without the owner’s permission are stolen, and possession of others without permission is an act of stealing. (Even here, you shouldn’t actually use the word steal.)
If something you have without permission is found in your child’s pocket or bag, it is best not to ask as much as possible about the process of acquiring it, such as where and how it was acquired.
Just cut it off as wrong to have it without the owner’s permission, speak seriously and quietly, and punish him for his actions. Of course, he returns the item to the owner.
Don’t blame the child, don’t be hostile, don’t despise him.
Don’t even give the child the impression of being a bad child.
But calmly, he simply says that the actions he took are bad.
Even what you want to buy is taught based on honesty.
It teaches that almost everything in the house is bought for money.
Teach what it means to receive a gift.
When you buy something in a store, it really shows that you pay for it.
Depending on their maturity, children are given a pocket allowance and taught to buy what they need with the pocket money, and if they need more pocket money, they can work to earn money and buy what they need with the money.
Teach about the value of things.
Teach them to save money to buy gifts.
Teach the meaning of possession.
They walk around the house, look at objects, and teach them about ownership.
Teach them that some of the objects in the house are their children and some are not theirs.
Teach that this is mom’s and that is dad’s and this is yours and that you can label the children.
It teaches that you can use yours without the permission of others and that you don’t see, has, or use yours without the permission of mom or dad.
Teach them to use and lend things, for example.
Teach your child how to apologize for the stealing.
· Toddlers. preschool-age children, school-age children, adolescents, and some of the adults do not know how to ask for forgiveness for wrongdoing.
· Teach them how to ask for forgiveness after doing something wrong.
· When parents have the opportunity to tell others to forgive for something they have done wrong, they can teach the child how to ask for forgiveness as model behavior.
· If you take something from someone else without permission, you give it back to the owner, teach them to ask for forgiveness, and if necessary, use his or her allowance to pay for the stolen property.
· When he or she has the urge to have something, teach him or her how to control it.
· If your child points to something at the store’s cash register and asks for a purchase, teach the child to see it, but not to touch it, because it is not his.
· Compliment it if they calmly endure it without touching it.
· Sometimes parents can allow one or two of them to be bought for their pocket money.
· When your child has something without the parent’s permission, parents can ask the child directly what he would like him to do, and sometimes he can suggest what he would do if he did this.
· If they have something of someone else’s without permission, they can go to the place to meet the owner of the item.
· Ask the owner of the item to forgive even if he doesn’t say anything.
· If your children have something that is not theirs without permission, ask what he or she thinks if someone else has yours without your permission, and educate them not to have other people’s things without permission.
· Teach them to apologize for wrongdoing and return it to the owner if they own someone else’s without permission.
· It should be noted that young children may not know the meaning of “apologize,” “wrong,” “sorry,” and so on, and apologizing with such words cannot always be desired.
· However, you teach that he or she must say sorry if he or she does something wrong.
· You teach them that when they want to have something other than their own, they can ask if they can have it.
· Ask mom, dad, or other people if they can have it, and teach them that if they can have it.
· He admonished that they never take other people’s without permission.
Compliment and reward appropriate for acting honestly.
· While it is important to correct the behavior that is not honest, it is also very important to train them to be honest in the future.
· The most important thing is to teach them to be honest.
· If your children look at the candy with their own eyes but don’t touch it at someone else’s store without permission, parents should praise them for being very good.
· If there is an example of a child doing honest behavior on TV, in the newspaper, or at home, parents think about it and teach it about honesty with your child.
· If you have children who have household members’ money or items without permission, keep your money and so that he or she will not be tempted.
· If a child acts honestly for a long time and shows honesty all the time, praise them for doing so.
· Always supervise what your children steal and what they do wrong.
· Supervise your children while they are growing up so they are trained to not keep things from stealing.
· your children can steal something by not being able to overcome the pressure of their peers.
To prevent this, they should always be observed and supervised.
· It is also a good way to raise your children by working with the parents of other children and taking turns supervising them.
· When parents leave home and go to work before t children ride the school bus to school, have a neighbor or someone observe them.
· One parent can take turns supervising children and children in the neighborhood in the morning and the other in the evening. When stealing something, you can talk to the parents of the children who stole with them and educate them not to do it.
· Let them play together if they no longer steal, and prevent them from playing together for at least a few weeks until they do not steal something else together.
· And when playing together, parents take turns observing and supervising them.
· In many ways, it is not good for school-age children to come home after school and let their school-age children play at home alone.
· Allowing young school-age children to play alone is one kind of child abuse, depending on age and country to country.
· Sometimes, before the parents return home from work, the babysitter who cares for the school-age child who comes home from school first makes the phone call to the mother and makes it clear that the mother checks the children over the phone because she loves them.
· After arriving home from school, prepare a schedule of things to do and a timetable for your school-age child. In an emergency, write down phone numbers where children can reach parents, and teach them to call the babysitter taking care of your child in case of an emergency.
· Set a time for homework, a snack, and a time to watch TV, and after mom and dad return home, do it as it is.
· Parents can take turns supervising them by creating sound after-school programs with friends living in the neighborhood.
· Like the above, love your little ones so they don’t steal.
Teach about the negative consequences of stealing.
· It is not a good idea to cure the stolen behavior by yelling and criticizing the child who owns anything other than the owner’s permission and prolonging educational admonition.
· Nevertheless, it must be said in a simple, severe, and quiet manner that it is wrong and a serious matter to have something else without permission.
· When school-age children take possession of other people’s possessions without permission, they will be punished by doing more chores than usual, making money by delivering newspapers, etc., and rewarding the stolen items with the earned money.
· Then, if necessary, return the item and have apologized to the owner for the wrongdoing.
· Give punishment to common sense.
· If a toddler eats cookies without permission, cookies are not given for 2 to 3 days, and for a preschool-age child 5-6 years old, do not give them for 1 week. If you bring a toy from a friend without permission, you can buy it with your own money or give it owner.
· If you have another child’s money at school, clean the bowl which he ate at home and repay it with his pocket money.
· Consider taking away the rights you have granted as needed for some time.
· If you don’t know what to do, ask your regular pediatrician or get help from a school counselor.
· How important it is to teach your children honesty while thinking that your children grow up as adults and are sitting in prison cells for stealing from others!
The act of “taking someone else’s property as mine without the owner’s permission” is called stealing or stealing behavior. iatric office, believe that they have a responsibility to guide children and adolescents to grow up healthy and trust and to train them to avoid stealing anything.